NEED TO KNOW
- A 31-year-old posted on Reddit asking for advice after discovering her best friend’s girlfriend blocked her on his phone
- She explained that the two have been best friends for five years
- However, things took a turn when he got into a relationship
A woman was shocked to learn her best friend’s girlfriend blocked her on his phone, so she turned to Reddit for advice.
The 31-year-old woman shared on Reddit that she’s been good friends with her guy best friend for around five years. He lives an hour and a half away, so they don’t see each other in person regularly but often communicate via phone.
“We have gone on a few overnight trips together, met up for dinner a few times, Christmas shopping together, and he kept my cat one year when I went on vacation,” she wrote in her post. “We have never been sexual or anything like that.”
Her friend started casually seeing a woman who lived in a different state about three years ago; however, they didn’t officially start dating until a year and a half ago.
“They did the long distance thing and went on lots of trips together. Anyway, now they live together,” she continued. “She moved in with him back in July.”
Since the two moved in together, the poster and her friend “have understandably cut back on communication.”
“He calls me from time to time, just to check in. I don’t call him because I don’t want her to get the wrong idea about our relationship (friendship), I do sometimes text him though,” she explained. “It’s usually just about my family drama and guy stuff. To be clear, it is not constant, maybe like one to two times a month max.”
Recently, while the couple was on a trip, the poster was shocked to see that her friend “tried to video call me on Snapchat from his phone at 4am.”
“Then a little while later I noticed that I had a missed call from him. I tried to call back bc I thought that maybe something was wrong (not sure why he would call me in that situation though). Anyway, I was blocked,” she wrote.
After the trip, the friend called her back and said “that his gf went through his phone when he was asleep and blocked some people.”
He wasn’t sure exactly who she had blocked at first, but was able to piece together from details and missed text messages. Along with the poster, the girlfriend also seemingly blocked the mother of one of his son’s friends.
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“He is asking me how to handle the situation. I honestly don’t know. I told him he probably does need to have a conversation about it and he does agree but he isn’t sure what to say… he said that he feels like it’s just going to cause a fight and they aren’t going to get anywhere,” the woman shared.
“I personally see this as a huge red flag and if it were my partner, I would be really upset that she didn’t just talk to me about whatever her insecurities were around the other women in his life. He is upset because this has caused unnecessary drama.”
The woman then asked the Reddit community for advice she could pass along to her friend.
“I can’t do anything about it. I’m not in the relationship. I’m just trying to find some good advice for my friend. Please help, fam,” the woman wrote.
People in the comments section agreed that it was a red flag and that the girlfriend’s behavior could be considered controlling.
“I don’t think there’s a ‘gentle’ way to say that’s incredibly invasive and a massive violation of my privacy. This clearly shows she doesn’t trust him and speaks to deeper issues,” one person wrote. “Now are those in the relationship overall or just on her end? We don’t know. Personally, I wouldn’t sit on it. I would rip the band-aid off and confront this head on, immediately. But I also wouldn’t stay with someone who did this. Because they could have just communicated with me what their problem is. With so much missing info here, it’s hard to give advice on this, aside from the obvious.”
Another person added, “If she refuses to talk calmly, turns it around on him, or keeps trying to control who he can talk to, that’s a serious relationship issue. In that case, the best thing he can do is hold firm boundaries and reassess the relationship’s health.”
