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- A woman was “horrified” when she found out her sister, 32, is in a relationship with a 57-year-old man
- In a post on Mumsnet, she said her sister’s boyfriend was probably “quite a catch” decades before they met
- “How can I help my sister?” the woman asked, after voicing her disapproval
A woman is concerned that her sister is making a poor choice with her love life.
The woman said her beautiful and privately-educated sister, 32, left everyone “quite horrified” when she recently announced that she’s in a relationship with a 57-year-old man. In a post on Mumsnet, the OP [original poster] said her sister’s boyfriend has done well for himself professionally, but their relationship isn’t a gold-digging situation as he isn’t close to being a billionaire.
“He’s handsome and fit. Probably was quite a catch…10 or 20 years ago,” the OP said of her sister’s boyfriend. “Sister has had a tough few years and I genuinely think she is just lonely.
“My sister would never date anyone who didn’t want children, so I can only assume that’s something they’re considering,” she continued.
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The woman revealed her sister was previously engaged but had to call off her wedding a week before due to the groom’s infidelity.
“I obviously know it’s my sister’s life to live, but I genuinely think this relationship is a manifestation of her not being that happy,” she said of her sibling’s new lover.
Curious for other people’s opinions, she asked, “How can I help my sister?”
Several responses to the post said they understood the woman’s concern. However, many others argued she shouldn’t interfere in her sister’s life as she’s a consenting adult.
“It’s none of your business,” one person commented. “I would hate it if my family interfered in who I choose to date. Different if she was 18 maybe and vulnerable, but 32! Surely she’s old enough now to make her own choices.”
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“Do you think she would make better (in your opinion) choices if she were ugly and state school educated?” another said. “Back off and let her live her life. You sound very judgmental.”
“I would feel the same as you OP, but at the end of the day it’s her choice,” a third wrote.
“She is an adult and makes her own choices and is not at any risk by being with someone much older, and is old enough to have considered the potential issues,” someone else chimed in.
“One of my best friends started a relationship in her early 30s with a man in his 60s and they were very happy together for over ten years until his death,” the same person added.
